Well, you know how you’ve been meaning to do x, y, z or you’re fond of saying, “If I had more time, I’d…” or perhaps you’re a fan of “If I didn’t have to drive my kids all over the place, I could probably write a book.” Regardless of how you put off the things you say are important to you, there’s never been a better time than now. Self-isolation and social distancing and quarantine time is a great time to get things done.
I’m facing this myself. Looking at all the things on the virtual to-do list that haven’t been done in 3, 5,10 years. The hopes and dreams I’ve held onto. The ideas I had in my 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, and yes, even my 50’s, that I’ve been pondering. The books I’ve been meaning to read. The letters I’ve been meaning to write. The baby books I’ve been meaning to update. The clothes from the early 2000’s that I’ve been meaning to donate. The end of life planning I’ve been meaning to contemplate. The dead parent’s taxes I’ve been meaning to sort or shred. The ashes I’ve been meaning to spread. And let’s not forget about all of the non-material things; forgiving that person, forgetting this person, letting go of old resentments and disappointments. So many fun things to do.
You might be thinking, “But Cheri, I really need to keep checking Facebook and Twitter and the news so I know what’s going on with the Covid virus.” Do you? Do you really? Or are you doing it too much? Does continuing to check the news and social media posts add to the already lightly spread and for some of you, heavily shellacked veneer of stress, anxiety, and fear? What’s that? It makes you feel better. Okay. If you say so.
Here’s the secret. You have time to do some very special work right now. Some of you have people who are in the final stages of life. Some of you have long lost friendships and relationships. Some of you have kids who feel disconnected from you. Some of you have partners, spouses and loved ones who feel disconnected from you. And some of you just need to clean out that closet, write that book, say that thing you’ve been meaning to say and if you’re like me, some of you are driving cars around that need to be cleaned out. And let’s be honest, many of us could benefit from a few push-ups, some flossing, and some core work.
Here’s the tip. If you don’t end up doing some of the things you’ve been saying for a long time are REALLY important to you, take them off the list. Like the sister in Frozen says, “Let it go!”. Lighten your load. Stop feeling guilty. Stop feeling bad and ashamed. Maybe it used to be very important but maybe it’s not anymore. And guess what? If you take things off the list of things that you’ve been carrying around for a million years, you can always put it back on the list. You’re so magic like that.